Breaking up is hard to do (famous words), but healing from a breakup can be even harder. Every day you’re reminded of something about that person – an object, a place, a song, etc. The process of healing from ending a relationship is different for everyone. Some are totally cool to move on and continue about their lives – on to the next one. But, there are those that need time to process and digest the reality of life without that person.
Let’s first dive into what happens post breakup – The pain is real, that chest pain you feel is in fact broken heart syndrome – a chest pain caused by episodes of high stress and trauma. According to the American Heart Association, broken heart syndrome or anginas are chest pains with shortness of breath that happen to people without a history of heart issues. Broken heart syndrome is treatable and will disappear over the course of a couple of days, or about a week. So, time does heal in this aspect.
Taking the time to heal after a break up is important, it should be a time to dig deep and ask yourself – How do I want to come out of this? Below are some more tips on how to heal from a break up:
- No Contact – This is tough with social media, you’ll literally have to scrape every social media account to avoid any contact with the person.
- Be nice to yourself – Depression can really hit hard during this time so be aware of your feelings and how your day is going. Being in an emotional state can cause you to make poor choices. Be mindful of what you eat and drink during this time.
- Don’t review the last few months or years of your relationship on your phone – It’s really not going to change the situation, the bit of dopamine effect you get from reviewing what was once a happy time is not the reality.
- Don’t ask all of your friends what they think of the situation – You’ll get mixed reviews. While talking about your feelings with your best friend is always a good idea, talking to many people about it is a terrible idea. You’ll need to ask yourself if you want to hear advice or if you are just looking for friends to side with you because you’re hurting.
- The last bit is don’t jump into the next relationship so fast. Before you go logging into Bumble or Tinder, remember that you may still have some baggage and feelings from the previous relationship. Not giving yourself the proper time to heal and get your mind right before the next relationship can be risky for you and the next person.
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